confirmed.

[substitute]

I think I need to find Misogyny for Dummies or something to bone up on how to be a proper bachelor. I’m too much of a softy and need some tips on how to fit into this role, since I’m pretty much stuck with it. Since I’m against suicide on principle but dislike pain, I need to find a way to deal with my future. As a 39-year-old virgin who has been rejected by every woman he ever approached, I am aware that my chances of sexual success are minimal enough to be considered zero. An anesthetic lifestyle with extensive coping mechanisms will be required.

Since one of my major problems is excessive empathy and emotional attachment to people who don’t really like me that much, this is going to be a challenge.

The best way of getting through the next 30-40 years would be, I originally though, massive amounts of alcohol, but my stomach won’t really tolerate that. I really don’t need the legal problems that go with other drugs, either.

The life of the glutton gastronome is appealing but would cause such serious medical problems for me that the risk/benefit there is pretty rotten also. I can’t see that losing limbs, eyesight, etc. would really be a good tradeoff.

I considered becoming a religious fanatic, which I’d be pretty good at, but I can’t stand the other religious fanatics.

So if anyone has tips on how to be a properly anesthetized bitter aging woman-hater, please speak up.

I’ve had it with being the understanding friend, the avuncular companion, the pathetic geek in the corner, or the spare guy who’s always there between boyfriends. Those roles are all just too painful. Please help me find a new stereotype.

Hugs,

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Comments

Re: the new Conrad

[the-friend.livejournal.com]

I am glad you think I am a good friend. That means so much to me. Especially from you.

One question:

What makes you think I already have it?

You are just looking on the outside. that is all you can see in me just like that is all I can see in you.

How is what you are doing different from what I am doing?

Re: the new Conrad

[substitute.livejournal.com]

I mean that you have a husband. I get a lot of people who are married or attached or who have had many relationships telling me that I shouldn't be so upset that I've never had anyone, or that I shouldn't want it that much. When I've never had anything or anyone, ever, this doesn't go down so well.

Re: the new Conrad

[the-friend.livejournal.com]

Sorry it took so long to respond.
Would you believe, they actually wanted me to work today? ;)
anyway, I totally understand where you are coming from there. And I really don't want to be that person who trivializes what your are going through.
It's just that I have been where you are. I know you may not believe me, and there is no other way for me to convince you other than to just state it and hope that you give me the benefit of the doubt and realize that you don't know everything about my past.
Also remember, as I'm sure you do, that by your own admission, you have never been in my place. Please don't assume that when I try to tell you that being where I am can be just as painful, in a different way, than being where you are.
Why do you think there are so many broken hearted relationships in the world?
I love pbd with all my heart but it is by the grace of God that we are still together, as I am sure he will testify to.
He has hurt me far more than I have ever been hurt before and I have hurt him far more than he has ever been hurt.
Rejection is hard though.
I don't like to spill all my hardships out to you because I don't want you to think that I am trying to make your pain seem insignificant. It really isn't. I truly wish I could make it go away.